Wondering if i posted in the wrong area/section, fairly new here. I wonder if anyone even reads my posts. Noone even comments.

How am I today? Alone. I feel all alone in a closed sealed box with no way out. That's how I am. I feel like no matter how hard we try we can't overcome the hole we have fallen into. When we get eyes I above the hole we fall to the bottom, splat.

I feel like a failure. I feel like I'm letting my daughter down, like I'm a bad parent.

We use to have no worries. We use to do fun things. We use to take her to the zoo, and fun places. We never had to worry about money, our bills were always paid.

Now it's an afternoon of tears and what are we going to do? There's no more fun places, there is no more all bills paid and we have nothing but worries.

What bill can we pay is what we say now.

My husban'd job use to thrive, it made money he made money it was great, now it's the worst ever seen. He is bringing home $400 it is very depressing and scary, and I begaining to think there is no hope.

I'm sorry for going on I just needed to get it out.

Thanks for listening.

My family needs help. I came here previously for help with rent. we finially managed to pay halph of January, but still owe $445 for January and $895 for Febuary. Our landlord is being patient, but I'm not sure how long he'll stay that way. Most importantly, we got behind on our Virginia Dominion Power bill and we made a specific payment arrangement where each month we pay current aout plus $60 per month towards past due amount for 6 months. With this arrangement you can not pay late or under the amount even by a few cents or you will be cut off.

We have to pay $274.18 by Thursday Febuary 12th or my family will be without power. I'm scared as we have a  a two year old.

The economy has taken my husband work to no work, slow work. He was averaging over $1,000 a week, now down to $400-$500 a week. He's in the decking busniess and two builders folded.

It has been devistating, and scary. We have cut back what bills we could cut back. And I just picked up a pt job, I go for an orientation on Thursday, to deliver phone books (yellow pages) part time.

I know that there is no miracle cloud hanging over us that is going to get our rent paid, but if anyone could help us out all in preventing our power from getting cut off it would be a true blessing. I don't want to be without power, and cold, and I don't want our food to go bad.

Also, things have been soooo stressful,we could really use a pick me up. Valentine's is this weekend and we have no means to celebrate our almost 15 years together.

Were a team where there's a will there's a way and somehow some way we'll weither this storm. We've never struggled before and this really waves heavy on my husband's pride. He keeps saying, "I made you a promise years ago...." I keep telling him don't beat yourself up, it's not your fault, this wasn't like we brought this on ourselves, people are suffering everywhere. He says he knows, but his pride is tarnished. It pains me. We can't do anything or buy anything, so if anyone would like to send a pick me up or card or something to make Vday special for us, it would really mean alot.

Thank you for listening, sometimes it helps just to get everything out.

I have never been more scared than I am now and the future of my family is unknown. But the three of us have eachother, and we will always be together no matter what. Our love is what gets us through.

Thank you and May God Bless You All.

Well said! My mom is on dissability fighting to appeal. She was denied. I read the letter it states the mdical board reviewed her records. There is no freaking way they did. They claim my mother had a kidney transplant and was waiting on another one. BS!

Her kidney doctor wrote a letter to them they clearly never even read. It stated that she was in renial failure, has congestive heart issues. BOTH kidneys were removed on Nov 3rd! And requires dyalisis three times a week. Without dyalisis she would die quickly.

Her hook up for dyalisis is in her neck, and she has NO kidneys she no longer produces urine she has NO urine!!!!

She is number 25 on the transplant list.

I think comes down to her application on someone's desk who was ready to go home for the day and didn't bother to read her file, and no way in hell a medical board reviewed anything.

There is no reason this happend to my mother, further I wish she God she did have a transplant but guess what it sure as hell didn't happen. Much less waiting on second one-please someone wrote random crap down and mailed it off, bottom line.

Our government is so screwed up. It discusts me people like you, my mom, and other with dissability being treated like nobodys.

What also pisses me off to know end is to work hard all your life and have social security to live on as crappy as that is in today's economy, is cruel punishment to the elderly. No way to live the remainer of your life. My neighbor lives with her daughter she gets $233 a month what the hell is that? She is 80. It's like saying ok your old we don't care about you, your gonna die anyway.

Everyone is entitled to their own opion, no has to or needs to agree with me, I'm merely sharing and expressing my opion. :)

Anyway-

Thanks for posting it!

Take care! 

Thanks a million for posting this link, were in the midths of potty training!

Hey thanks for your posting! It's very helpful. We use to eat out alot until our current situation arose, and we realized how much money we were wasting.

I'd like to share a meal with you.

Stuffed Chicken. Boneless chicken breasts, stuff them with chicken flavored stuffing, place in baking dish, pour cream of chicken soup, or cream of mush room soup in dish and over chicken, cover with Aluminum foil.Bake at 350 for about 45 mins. Hmmmmm mmmm! Good! One of hubby's favorites!

But it seems cooking is a long process with a 2 year old  running round, and were not spending any money frivously. So if you know any other meals that are god and quick, would you mind sharing them with me?

Also I saw some posts indicating some sort of confrantation may have occured on here between you and other members.

I'm new here don't know what happened, don't want to know. I did see a comment where you refferenced people asking for money and get mad when they don't get it.

I would like to say on my own behalph, I asked for help with my rent, which is something I've never had to do, nor like having to do. No one has offered me any monies, I am not mad at all. I'm not the only one suffering difficulties, it's tough on everyone these days.

I just want to say I hope you and the others turn things around and concentrate on what this site is for. It's not worth wasting time from your life for one member to bicker at another, or one member having to defend themselves to another.

Were to help people. And in my short time here, I did gain something from reaching out, and you can't put a price on it, a new friend.

Thanks again for the tips!

Thank you for the warm Welcome. Don't know what wonderful thing i did. But thank you. New here, just getting aquainted with site.

Thanks again! Happy Wishes!

I would like to join the AID Page Team.

You desrve applause! Congradulations on the exceptional goals you have set forth in front of you. It takes massive courage to leave an abusive relationship.

I struggled greatly as witness to a friend's abusive relationship. Put a side the fact he physically tried to kill her, covered in bruises, hand prints around her throat. We stepped in. Did what we could, were making head way but when the weekeend was over, she let him back home.

Sometimes love blinds you. Sometimes you think you can change him, or he'll change, sometimes you actually believe it really is all your fault, you desrve it. Love makes you put up with things that normaly you wouldn't deal with for a mini second.

I loved her,always there, her support, her shoulder. No matter how angry, helpless I felt I had to let her do as she wished. There was no listening to reason. Thank God she woke up before it was too late.

She left him, went home to her parents to start her life over. She gave her life to Christ, paid off $20,000 in debt  her ex boyfriend incurred in her name, she did it in three years! Paid her car off! Did a complete 180. I'm so proud of her!

She has a good job, heavily involved in her church, administrator for a christian singles group. She turned her life around.

Empowering!

And it was one of those things where I had to keep a close eye on her but could not control the situation, only she could. A woman can be beaten a thousand times from a man, be she isn't going to leave until she loves herself, and is good and ready.

I am so happy through your own experience you found away to help others in similar situations.

There needs to be more safe havens available for women and children. There are some women that do love themselves and their children, and want to leave their abusive partner and have no where to turn or go to.

Thank you for reaching out to others changing one life at a time.

Good luck to you!

Keri-

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Mark's family. Thank you for sharing his beautiful life with others. What an amazing life he lived. I have my own finance issues but am going to try and send what I can to his fund. So his wife and handsome Nolan can have a mortgage free home filled with memories, and all the hard work he put into that house.

I feel I must do something, for a special someone who lived every day as if it were his last.

I know you deeply miss him, but know how truly blessed you are to have had your life touched by him.

May Mark rest in peace.

Keri-

What a pleasure to meet you, and what a breath of fresh air you are. I will check out that link. Your wrds of encouragement really are amazing. It uplifted me and really made me think about just how right you actualy are and I don't even know you.

In December we lost two loved ones within two weeks,and then my husband was told no work til the start of January.And then also in December my mother was on life support, she had her kidneys removed in november,and had fluid build up, she survied, and made it hom on Christmas Eve. Then my husand got back to working, trying to get checks in but work is slow, were behind and don't have rent.

Just like you said, it's like every corner you turn something else tries to knock you down.

as recent as this past week I'm at odds with my mother and step father.

But you are so right. I mean not just me, anyone who stumbles across your page and reads what you wrote, it may hit them like it hit me. Like it felt like you wrote it for me talking directly to me. Therefore I think your post could open the eyes of thousands.

God blessed me with a wonderful husband , that I have spent 15 years of my life with come March. God blessed me with the miracle of motherhood.

My beautiful baby girl, is a such a blessing. I think God for her every day. She is such a joy.

Thank you for reminding me that no matter what happens we have eachother. That our love will get us through anything.

And I did I stumbled across this site, my first post was needing help with rent. I felt in the depths o despair, lost scared, no hope. and then I found your blog.

That talked of the very things I was complaining about. And how I'm setting here feeling sorry for myself scared to death we'll be on the street, and you shook me with your words, other people have it wost.

Some have been on the streets for years and have noone to love the much less a child.

Many people have their own sob story. and I hope no one judges my post in a negative way. I need help I reached out.

But you made me think of the others in this world that have it wirse then me, and got me to apreciate and recognize what I do have to be thankful for, no matter how bad I think things are.

Thank you for that and for helping outhers with your words of wisdom.

I agree. Zombie, Im sorry you are feeling this way.Please don't attempt it again. Try to stay stong, I know it's difficult at times but try. Perhaps when your ready, you can share what is causing you the urgency to want to end it all. If not, it's okay, but tell someone anyone. Even when you think no one anywhere would care, trust me someone somewhere will.

Personaly, I'm having a difficult time, I had a difficult childhood, I have a child myself now and can't pay the rent. I'm at odds with my parents and have fought my 34 years to be loved unconditionaly by my family.and you know what I want to LIVE.

You know people will try to destroy you, tear you down, not me makes me stronger, I won't end my life for the pleasure of others.

I love life, even it's bitter sweet obstacles of hell it sometimes shifts my way. You see Zombie, what troubles we face in life is what makes us stronger, they are mere bridges to cross. We can overcome things, we can go through hell first before we over come but it can be done.

Don't give up, and don't let whatever is beating you up take you down.

I'm sure you'll meet some really great people here, just be open minded and let others help you.

Take care of yourself.

Need Help Paying Rent

We are a 1 income family of 3. We need help paying our January (well past due) and Febuary rent. My husband has a good job. He builds decks and such. Unfortunatly, with the economy, several builders left his company.In mid december there was no work til the 8th of January. And work is very limited. As well peak season for his line of work is Spring and Summer.

He is back working, but the pay just is not cuting it to get the rent paid. It will pick up in March. We owe now,and have no time to get by til then.

We have prayed for blessings and have exhausted all options to remedy the situation. We too fall through the cracks. My husband averages $1000 a week, now at $300-$500. The government programs etc. look at your gross,before taxes, and annual. We have always taken care of ourselves. Never had a hand out to anyone, and is a pride shattering thing to have to ask for help.

If it were my husband and I we would take whatever life throws at us, we'd get evicted,live in a car if we had to, we be okay. But our 2 year old daughter changes everything, makes you go against your own morals and reach out for help.

I am a stay at home mom, a choice we made for the benefit of my child. If I worked all my income would go to day care, were someone else would basically be raising her  by day. And normally my husband made enough to provide for us three.

This is a first time circumstance and we were unprepared. The first time, he recieved no xmas bonus and there was no work. With help we'll be able to rise above this get back on our feet catch up on everything and beable to get a nest egg savings going in spring and summer to prepare for next winter, so that this never ever happens again.

If anyone can help us out, please contact me.

We have worked so hard to get where we are and too loose it all due to not enough time to get money in, would hinder us in so many ways. We will be evicted, on the street no where to go, with our two year old daughter, which to us would be failing as parents. It would destroy our rental history,reffrence,and reputation. And destroy our credit that we worked so hard to have in good standing.

I pray every day, for my prayers to be answered. To see the light in this dark storm, I've tried to be optimistic. I have even altered any bills allowed such as cabel phone etc where I changed my plans so that they are lower.

We have been using what income he has recieved to pay the remaining halph of december rent, food and pull-ups for daughter, power, car payments and gas so he can get to jobs.

I keep the internet, to sell items we no longer use for extra cash, though not been too sucessful,too many people sell baby stuff on craigslist.

I also use internet to try and find employment to work from home,just haven't been able to find legit oppourtunities.

Right now, many people have the same story, people are broke can't pay rent, forecloseures, the economy has self destructed.

Any person in this situation, who is lucky enough to over come it. Learn from it. I'm not talking to the people that put themselves in the situation. Not talking to the people, who waste what money they do have friviously, or are lazy and simply don't want to work. I'm talking to the people that bust their butts in today's world to make it. People with children, people with families, that work hard every day. You fall into a hole, and your able to climb out learn from it. Prepare for the future, protect yourself and loved ones. When you get on your feet, get a savings going so the next time you fall into a circumstance over your head you can bail yourself out.

No savings is why we can't help ourselves. We learned the hard way, a mistake were paying for.

I've read the other similar stories here, and it's heavy on the heart to see  this many people out here going through the same thing. Scared, stressed in fear of their own lives.

I watch my daughter run through the house, smiling, and it breaks my heart, not knowing will we lose our home or not? Were on month to month lease so it could happen any given day.

I think if we get out of this, back on our feet I'm going to do something to help others. Help the homeless, come up with an organization, something.

There's too may people suffering out here, that need someone to care.

Keep my family in your prayers, and I will pray for all those in similar situations. My husband and I have a saying we use to encourage us in rough times, be it when I had contractons in labor, or when he had no work, or now when we can't pay our rent "THIS TOO SHALL PASS".

I PRAY FOR A PASS

Thank you.